One lesson my father taught me was to not blame others and take responsibility for your actions. For a long time, I ignored this advice. What can I say? I'm a stubborn guy and never really like it when anyone gives me advice. I used to think, no harm, no foul. Or, to quote John Legend: "She don't have to know."
As I grow older, I realize that there are REAL consequences to your actions and that you can't just do whatever the fuck you want. At this point, I know there are things I can't take back and things I have done to friends, family, colleagues and significant others that can't be forgiven but I'll try my best to work to make things right. I may never get there but that stubborn part in me won't stop me from trying.
I guess this post came to mind after meeting up with a friend recently that I really screwed things up with several years ago. In a lot of ways, we've both changed since the falling out. She's doing great and her life is on track. In the present, I'm really happy with the type of person I've been in 2010. At first, things were really awkward. She was stand-offish in body language and conversation. I knew I had address what was on both our minds. A sincere apology from me was all that was needed to mend that friendship. From there, it's like we never missed a beat. I'm really happy it worked out because I hate losing friends, especially kind hearted, fun loving people like her.
I don't think this approach would work with everyone in every situation but it was clear, a huge weight was taken off of my shoulders and more importantly hers.
I say this from the bottom of my heart: Congratulations. I am so happy for you :)
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